Will I ever find a partner that can tolerate my misophonia?
Some misophones may feel like they will never find a partner who can tolerate their misophonia. With so many cultural norms surrounding dating and food, a misophone may feel like dating is impossible.
Fortunately, there is hope. There are people out there who will care enough to make the effort to understand how misophonia affects you.
I, myself, am a person that does not have misophonia while my partner does. I can’t say that I’m never annoyed by some of his misophonic reactions, but I know, despite my greatest efforts, I end up triggering him sometimes, too.
We work together to find what works for us both.
For example, we do not typically eat together. We may prepare a meal together and enjoy each other’s company during the cooking, but when it’s time to eat, we each go to our own part of the house.
When living with or dating a person with misophonia, communication is key. Understanding a misophone’s triggers and the reactions they cause will help the partner without misophonia empathize with their misophone partner.
Likewise, if there is something about a misophonic partner’s reactions that is a problem for their non-misophonic partner, they should communicate this to to the misophonic partner when they are calm and not experiencing the symptoms of a trigger.
soQuiet’s 5A plan is a great tool for supporting a misophone.
Be honest but gentle. Learn each other’s needs. Communicate and compromise. Be willing to be flexible. This is the way to make a relationship between a misophone and a non-misophone work.
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